Some of the most common are loss of a toy, goldfish, job, relationship or loved one. More often then not there are warning signs to our losses or they are understandable. We lost our purse because we forgot it on the park bench. Or, we lost a loved one through death. What if you experience a loss with no explanation. Pilates and yoga lessons in her life. We were becoming close friends and then one day i called to confirm her next appointment and received no call back. This was uncharacteristic of her so i phoned her again a day later with still no result. After a week of trying and still getting no callback i gave up. Our relationship vanished into thin air without any explanation. Not only did i lose work but i also lost a friend. Her idea about me is none of my business. In fact her vanishing into thin air had nothing to do with me whether she perceived that it did in her mind. We are the main characters to our play and everyone that arrives afterwards is secondary characters. Her decisions were based on her play. When i realized this i was able to move on because i knew that people will always make decisions about other people whether they are based on fact or not. People will see what they want to see and hear what they want to hear. It happens everyday to all of us. If we can practice viewing everyone that comes into our life as a character in a play with their own plays going on, we can begin to not take anything that other people do personally. Their story has nothing to do with you and everything to with the drama in their mind. Think of a relationship that has an open end.